Everyone, including our children, has potential where unique strengths and interests are stored in the hopes of developing it. Potential can only be harnessed through improving some areas which are in need of development. Although it may be difficult to make our children understand the concept of potential, we need to help them reach their full potential.
Here are some ways you can help your kids be the best versions of themselves.
Spend Time With Them
Parents should be able to help their children realize and understand their strengths and weaknesses. To do this, you should spend time with your kids and observe the subjects they excel in and the ones they need to improve. You should also get to know the areas that interest them the most. Another point is knowing which environment they thrive in the best, and which ones are particularly difficult for them.
Positively Challenge Your Kids
If your child is having some difficulty with his or her challenges in his or her tender age, make sure to communicate with them in a challenging manner. This could be done thorough expressing words of affirmation and encouragement. Also, teaching them that setbacks are normal encourages them to be self-motivating. Focusing your communication on their strengths is useful because it prevents them from being on a plateau and continuously urges them to do better. Below are some examples of communicating effectively with your child:
Accomplishments: “Great job! You worked hard and got a high grade. We are very proud of you!”
Potential: “Just work on it, and you will end up with skills like your idol. You can do it. You know that you can, right?”
Quality or Trait: “You are very understanding of your sister, and that is an excellent thing. You are a very patient girl, and that is a nice quality.”
Effort: “Although you did not finish on time, I’m still proud of you trying hard and learning in the process. You have accomplished so much here which means on your next endeavor, you have all the things you need within you.”
Struggles: “It is hard for you to empathize with other people, will you tell me why? I care for you and want to help you with your struggles if you let me.”
Intentions: “You wanted to visit your grandparents but was not able to do so. It’s alright. I’m sure you wanted to keep them company and help them.”
Evaluate Your Kids
Giving feedback and constructive criticism challenges and encourages your child to strive more. Guiding them through talking things out with them will make them realize their strengths and weakness, and how to work on these two things about themselves. For example, ask them why they do what they do in the areas they are interested in, maybe suggest some new ideas that could also help them improve within their areas of interest.
Don’t Put Pressure On Your Child
Sometimes as parents, we see our child’s potential in a particular area. However, they are not interested in it. If you notice this with your child, do not force them to improve on something they do not find important or interesting. Instead, let them focus on the things they do like and work from there. Forcing, pressuring and imposing improvements on children does not help and might cause them unhappiness in the long run.
Encourage Their Passions And Dreams
As a parent, it is best to help your children utilize their strengths and talents in their passions and dreams, instead of imposing what you think could be their passions and desires. Ask them and talk to them about their goals and aspirations and although these may change through time, encourage what they like and believe they can achieve it.