You and your spouse have been thinking of adopting from some time now. Your family and close friends are asking you what you’re waiting for while some are concerned about the concept of you having to raise a child that is not yours biologically. Whether there are a lot more who are against it or vice versa, the final decision must be made by you and your spouse, and it should be a decision that is not to be made with haste.
There are a lot of sources you can read from if you want to know more about adoption, and as you learn more about it, you’ll get to know the pros and cons of adopting a child. But regardless, here is a list of some questions you can ask yourself before deciding to go for adoption.
Do I have a thorough understanding of how adoption works?
Aside from being able to comprehend the different types of adoption, you must be aware of the federal, state, and international laws that are involved in the process of adoption. Study how the system from beginning to end so that whatever happens along the way, you can deal with it without little to no frustrations. The more you understand the system, the better it will be for you and your spouse.
Am I patient?
The whole process of adopting can take time. In fact, it can take years before the confirmation to adopt is released, and for someone who wants to raise a child so badly, it can be pretty sad and depressing. So be sure you are patient enough to wait – and sometimes wait for nothing. If you can be patient with things like this, then you sure are ready to raise a child who can be the most stubborn and annoying human beings at times!
Are you emotionally strong or stable?
Adoption is a two-way street. It can bring out the best or the worst in you. No one knows how well they are at parenting until they have a child of their own, and that goes for you as an adoptive parent. You’ll know if you are good at it once you’ve managed to raise your adopted child to be a strong, kind, and happy person. But what if you’ll have to go through many challenges before you get to that stage? Are you strong and resilient enough to surpass these challenges? Or what if the adoption doesn’t push through in the first place? Be prepared emotionally and keep in mind that anything can happen.
Are you hesitant to deal with behavioral, emotional, and mental health problems?
Having children entails a lot of things, including the potential for perfect or imperfect health. Adoptive parents must be aware of the effects that trauma has on foster or adopted children. Also, you should acknowledge that your child may have potential issues that he may be facing. You can also ask about his biological parents and family, although sometimes that would be impossible.
Do you have a strong support system?
Do you have an understanding family and supportive friends who are with you in this journey? This means that whatever happens, you have a support network that you can lean on to help you deal with whatever you may be facing. If your family and significant others understand what you are going through and they are willing to support and guide you all the way, then you are stronger than you think. Connect with them regardless of whether the adoption pushes through or not.
Do you feel that adoption is your calling?
This question is vital in that it reflects how much the adoption means to you. When you think about adopting, what goes through your mind? Is it the responsibility, the sense of just having a kid, or is it a sense of fulfillment of having to take care and love a child like your own? You must have a strong and meaningful purpose of why you are adopting.
Being an adoptive parent is a challenge as well as a blessing. A lot of adoptive families have been happy making wonderful memories together, keeping them strong and fulfilled. Do you think you are ready to take on the challenge and the blessing? If you say yes, then start the process right now. Seize the opportunity! Good luck!